By Lawanda Burch


Almost every relationship has its ups and downs through the years where the partners get along and then they do not. Many people will resolve their differences among themselves and carry on as if nothing bad happened. Other people find themselves mired in disagreements that seem to grow daily and are incapable of figuring out how to resolve them and stop fighting. Some relationships cannot last during these difficult periods and the participants decide that the struggle is not worth it anymore and they break up. Other partners may wish to recapture the love they had and will seek out seattle couples therapy to help them stop behaving badly with each other.

Some professional counselors will start the process by allowing the individuals to get to know each other on a different level. A person can go through many different situation during the course of their life time that can leave an imprint on how they view the world and other people. Even situations that occurred when someone was very young can have an impact years later on a subconscious level when faced with certain emotions and conditions.

Allowing people to convey how they feel about particular subjects allows a counselor to gain insights into their thought process. How one views the world around them can determine how they will respond to crisis and circumstances. A person usually falls back on old methods to help them get through the conflicts that inevitable arise during life.

The falling back on old methods can lead to trouble. Those who were not treated well as a child may revert to how they protected their emotions when a parent or sibling abused them. In later life, when they get involved in a disagreement with their spouse, those feelings might rise again and the other spouse might revert to maladaptive techniques to protect their emotions.

Arguments can take on a life of their own. What could actually be a minor disagreement gets augmented when the feelings of past quarrels are still unresolved. The angry sentiments of past disputes are reflected in the new disagreement and, what could have been resolved with a little bit of discussion, explodes into a big fight.

Many partners fight over the same type of things as most other couples. Financial pressures can weigh heavily on a family that is in debt and people start to disagree over how to spend and save money. Some one who is sick can generate a lot of pressure on a relationship as people struggle with care issues. Some relationships are affected by family members who might not like the spouse of their son or daughter and the parent can inflict bad feelings onto the partnership.

A counselor will try to release the hidden thoughts and feeling the partners may have. People do not always realize why they act the way they do and do not understand how their past affects them today. Once these emotions are released, a person might be able to build a strong connection with their partner.

Spouses having problems can get help. Seattle couples therapy is used to help them reconnect their love. Sometimes a couple simply needs to learn why they feel they do to change they way they think.




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